Generating the courage to confront someone else’s bad behavior is tough.
But it’s not the work.
Creating a plan to confront someone’s bad behavior, rather than confronting and hoping that the act of doing so will be enough to create the change you want, is difficult.
But it’s not the work.
Confronting the person who has behaved badly, executing your plan, and then watching their reactions—and responding accordingly—is hard.
But it’s not the work.
All those actions are part of the process of getting to the goal of growing our courage to confront bad behavior.
The process is not the work.
The work is going through the process, getting to the goal (your goal, not the goal of the other party), getting knowledge from that experience, integrating that learning into what your actions, behaviors, and responses will be the next time a similar situation arises in the future, and then letting the moment go.
That’s the work.
By the way, the work is the thing that’s always on the line. Not us.
