There’s a rule we just heard about here at HSCT.
It kind of goes like this:
Out of all the content ever created by human beings (art, music, plays, TV and radio shows, stand-up comedy, etc., etc., etc.)
- 33% has always been crap,
- 33% has always been middlebrow
- and 33% has always been high quality.
This concept can also be applied to the heart-work of having a crucial conversation, once people and parties in conflict realize that most breakthroughs are really break “withs.”
If parties start with
- maintaining the emotional connection and tonality of the conversation,
- and are committed to preserving “face” and autonomy to make decisions (bad or good)
- and if both parties remain open to change,
then success is assured.
However, if 33% of the conversations that you are having are not that crucial, and 33% of the conversations you are having are somewhat important and 33% of the conversations that you have are actually crucial, then the real hard work is figuring out which 33% you are in at any given moment.
[Thanks to M. Burt for introducing us to this concept.]
If 33% of conversations are crucial, how do you make that determination?
Here at HSCT, we can help you explore how to do that safely and thoroughly.
Sign upfor the March 26th HSCT Seminar, Choices in Communication, held at The Studios of Bree Elyse Imaging for only $89.99!
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We would love to see you there!
-Peace Be With You All-
Jesan Sorrells, MA
Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant
Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
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