[Podcast] Earbud_U, Season Two, Episode #9 – Pattie Porter, Conflict Coach, Podcast Host, Entrepreneur, The Hardest Working Mediator in Texas
Fear, avoidance, escalation and getting out of our own way…
In a conflict there are two primary movers: Fear and Power.
Fear moves a conflict forward, or backward, or to the side, through resistance, panic, aggressiveness, and avoidance.
Power moves a conflict forward, or backward, or to the side, through domination, aggressiveness, passive-aggressiveness, and outright confrontation.
Power over is sometimes confused with motivation and empowerment, especially by abrasive leaders.
In many organizations, departments, teams, committees and even individuals, make decisions about changes and innovations because of their perceptions about both fear and power.
Such perceptions (and misperceptions) within different organizations, sometimes leads to a lack of genuine leadership, work being done badly (or not at all), and innovation being stymied.
Unfortunately, as long as people are around to create hierarchical chains of command, fear and power will be the two prime movers of conflict.
Our guest for our show today, Pattie Porter, President of the Texas Association of Mediators and host of the Texas Conflict Coach Radio Show on the Blog Talk Radio network, faces these issues head-on. She works almost exclusively to address cultural clashes, abrasive supervisors and help HR departments in all types of organizations from NASA to higher education organizations.
The key thing to understand is that the party who uses fear and power as a primary mover in a conflict, is looking for a preprogrammed, evolutionary response from the other party: When a different response is provided, then the balance of fear and power shifts, from the instigator to the respondent.
This is the dance of conflict, driven by fear and power, and when the balance is successfully tipped—or shifted—the game changes.
Pattie knows about the game changing and she is tilling the field of that change in order to engage with conflict competency as a skill for leaders and a skill set for everyone.
Ironically enough, Pattie bookends the second season of Earbud_U and closes off our first interview that we did with Neil Denny, way back in Episode #1.
Check out all the ways below that you can connect with Pattie!
Pattie on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patriciaporter
Pattie on Twitter: https://twitter.com/txconflictcoach
Pattie on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TexasConflictCoach
Conflict Connections: http://www.conflictconnections.com/
Pattie on Podcasting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKip9iYd__s
Pattie’s Professional Profile: http://www.mediate.com/people/personprofile.cfm?auid=603
Pattie’s Interview with Dave Hilton: http://www.conflictengagementspecialists.com/blog/conflict-coaching-with-pattie-porter-texas-conflict-coach/
Pattie on The Culture of Empathy Series: http://cultureofempathy.com/References/Experts/Pattie-Porter.htm
Pattie’s Podcast, The Texas Conflict Coach Radio Show: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/texas-conflict-coach