HIT Piece 1.06.2015

I am wondering about the allure of false peace.

You know the kind of “peace” that comes from accommodation, rather than effective confrontation.
You know the kind of “peace” that comes from quiet acquiescence to the outcomes of the process of conflicts.
You know the kind of “peace” that people seem to favor, when they shrug their shoulders, and seem to passively accept a false outcome, rather than doing the hard work of actively pursuing a different choice.

I wonder if the presence of false peace makes it harder for real innovation and change.

There is a marked difference between real peace and being “just left alone,” or, vainly hoping that the lion of conflict will consume your emotions and spirit last rather than first.

I wonder, do people really want change in their hearts, or do they just say that they do with their mouths?

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA
Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant
Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
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HIT Piece 12.16.2014: 3 Blogging Lessons

After blogging for almost two years, I’ve learned a few important things:

If I wait for inspiration to write, it won’t ever come. Inspiration happens when my butt hits the seat and I begin to stare at that blinking cursor and the white paper.

I became so much better at this blogging game, when I stopped writing just three times a week “because I just didn’t have time to do more” and started writing 5 times per week. And next year, it’ll be twice a day, five days of the week.

Profundity is not the point of the blogging.

If I am seeking to be profound, to stumble upon some sainted truth about entrepreneurship, conflict resolution, peacemaking, marketing, social media communication, my writing is not going to get there. My readers will find, and share, the profundity for me.

I write whether you read it or not.

The reason that blogging gets such a bad rap from “serious” writers such as novelists, journalists, research writers and others, is partially because of the nature of issues blogging covers (a “them” problem) and partially because of the lack of consistency and doggedness of bloggers (an “us” problem).

Rest assured, I’m going to keep writing the HSCT #Communication Blog, whether anyone reads it or not. I think of it like Saturday Night Live, which goes on every Saturday night at 11 o’clock (EST) because it’s 11 o’clock, whether anyone is watching it or not.

It’s all content.

The podcast, the blogging, the text on my website, the ADRTimes.com blog posts, the Facebook shares, the Quora posts, the Tweets, the workshop content, the keynote speeches, the LinkedIn posts, the e-books, the white papers, the Medium.com posts, the layered images.

It’s ALL content.

-Peace Be With You All-

HIT Piece 07.08.2014

How easy is it to say “no?”

About as hard as it is to accept the consequences of a bad “yes.”

An agreement made based out of desperation, greed, a desire to please or a need to avoid a conflict (whether with self or with others) is an agreement destined to produce your worst work, not your best.

A well thought out “no,” as painful as it may be to give because of circumstance (financial, emotional, psychological, etc.), can destine you to produce your best work, not your worst.

With that in mind, it’s easy to say “no” to a difficult client, a time consuming and fruitless mediation, a meaningless workshop or speaking engagement, or even a “too good to be true” “once in a lifetime offer” to work, or serve, for an organization that has more problems than fleas on a Texas mule.

I’ve never known a mule to have trouble saying “no.”

Why don’t you?

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA

Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant

Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
Email HSCT: hsconsultingandtraining@gmail.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HSConsultingandTraining
Twitter: www.twitter.com/Sorrells79
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jesansorrells/
HSCT’s website: http://www.hsconsultingandtraining.com