[Opinion] On Courage

The difference between people who “succeed” and people who “fail” in a conflict scenario is individual levels of courage.

Courage is in short supply and always has been since the days of the playground bully and meeting new people once you got off the bus for the first time in the first grade and Mom and Dad weren’t there to hold your hand anymore.

Courage is not about preparation, learning, discipline or even persistence and grit—although all of those skills and internal factors help.

Courage is about not needing external validation from the world—basically, not needing assurances to do the right thing—and just doing the right thing in the first place.

Which is often the hard thing.

In a conflict scenario, it takes courage to confront in a healthy way, prepare for the feedback you will receive about your role in the problem and then integrating that feedback into your worldview, while also giving feedback to the other person about their role in the scenario.

It takes courage to confront a cheating spouse, explain how what they did impacted you and your family and then to listen to them tell you why they made their choice.

It takes courage to address a difficult employee who has little social skills and appears to have even less desire to develop them, and try to find a middle ground to get tasks done in the workplace.

It takes courage to speak up when you think bad decisions are being made in a fraternal, civic, volunteer, or church organization that you disagree with. And it takes courage to hear and accept why those decisions may not be the best for you, but are the best ones for the organization.

Courage is at the bottom of all resolution. Forgiveness is at the bottom of all reconciliation efforts. Labor is at the bottom of all engagement practices, advice and opinions.

So then the question becomes: How much do you really want to grow as a person before you leave this life?

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA
Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant
Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
Email HSCT: jsorrells@hsconsultingandtraining.com
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[Podcast] Earbud_U Episode #2 – Jared Campbell

[Podcast] Earbud_U Episode #2- Jared Campbell, Crossover Musician, The Blue Project Founder, Chris Farly Impersonator

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Very rarely does a creative individual cross over successfully from one genre to another.

Musicians rarely do this going from Christian music to secular music. Jared Campbell is amazingly talented and gifted musician who has moved seamlessly through performing in Christian venues all the way through producing children’s albums.

He’s also on a path to prevent bullying in high schools and middle schools by striking at the core of the bullying issue: the interior of people.

Jared is doing the most transformative work possible: He’s changing the world through his talent, his message and his calling to a Higher purpose. This is the greatest, most difficult challenge possible.

He’s doing great work in a number of different areas, but please connect with him about the Blue Project and via his website, by following the links below:

The Blue Project: http://jcblueproject.com/

Jared Campbell: http://jaredcampbell.com/

Itunes: https://itunes.apple.com/artist/jared-campbell/id283111388

Twitter: https://twitter.com/jcampbelltweet

The Myspace Page: https://myspace.com/jaredcampbell

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jaredcampbellfans

Check out the interview below!

Or, check it out on Soundcloud here–>https://soundcloud.com/jesan-sorrells/earbud_u-episode-2-heyitsjaredcampbell

Download the Latest Episode of Earbud_U!

The Shifting Social Contract

Privacy, the law and the social contract is breaking down.

People want to access the internet and be social privately, secretly and anonymously, but the NSA reads our emails and may soon have access to the data that all the devices in our home will be sharing with each other.

The Lockian social contract is breaking down with technology that Locke could never have anticipated, in an effort to create a Rousseauian-libertine future with no responsibility for what we say and do.

And that’s at a macro level.

Then there is bullying and social break down in social media. Children push each other to suicide. People are redefining the workplace and griping about it on social media. People are making individual economic choices at a rational (and emotional) level to pick streaming over subscription packages.

And that’s at the micro level

So…what does all of this have to do with mediators and conflict?

At the intersection of macro and micro concerns regarding privacy, trust, secrecy, confidentiality and the breakdown of the general social contract, lies a place for peacemakers with skills and talents to train, advise, coach and mentor those for whom active listening, empathy and civil liberties seem to be quaint holdovers from an era of powdered wigs and wine snobs.

-Peace Be With You All-

Jesan Sorrells, MA
Principal Conflict Engagement Consultant
Human Services Consulting and Training (HSCT)
Email HSCT: hsconsultingandtraining@gmail.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HSConsultingandTraining
Twitter: www.twitter.com/Sorrells79
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/jesansorrells/